Friday, May 25, 2012

Am I Just Weird?

This evening Bryce is going home with my MIL to spend the night since it is my FIL's birthday today.  The girls would probably be invited too but they have gymnastics in the morning and then we're going up to my IL's house for the afternoon.

There's a good chance we'll end up going out to dinner tonight in the midst of the few errands we have to run.  And here's where I wonder if I'm weird.  Do any other parents get a little bit sad when you go out without one of your kids?  I'm not talking a trip to the grocery store but to a restaurant or some family place?  (I'll gladly go to the grocery store or another errand with just one kid!)  I know that Bryce is excited to spend the night alone with his grandparents but when we go out as a family without one of the kids it makes me a little sad and missing the one who isn't with us.

Maybe it's because of the fact that I'm so proud of my three kids and that being without one just feels plain weird to me. Maybe it's because the 3 kid dynamic is just off and I'm not used to it.  Or maybe it's because I miss the chaos of being out with 3 kids and being so used to zone defense that I'm not used to man-to-man. I do know that when a kid goes elsewhere and we're home with just one or two of them I'm fine with it.  In fact it's a nice break because of how much easier bedtime is and how much quieter it is.  Not that I don't miss the one that's not there when it comes to tuck them in at night but one less kid for an evening means one less chance of being awoken in the middle of the night or one less chance for bedtime nonsense.

4 comments:

Erin said...

YES!!! And my husband thinks I'm crazy!!! Recently, my parents have been taking one of the oldest boys at a time for a Saturday night here and there, to give them special one-on-one time, which they LOVE. We always end up going out to dinner with just the two that are left and yeah... it's like there is a giant HOLE. I get REALLY sad... and so does the remaining older child! Ben and Simon bicker a TON, but when one is missing, if we go out somewhere, they always point out things the other one would like about wherever we are. Then, the house is just strange with just the two...

Erin said...

(here's what's especially weird... I didn't feel this way on schooldays when Ben and/or Simon was at school... it's just when they are SUPPOSED to be here but aren't.... ?)

Erika said...

Whew, okay, I'm not alone. Although I will say, it's been verrrrrry quiet in the house this morning w/o Bryce. The girls are fighting less. Miss him but enjoying a little extra quiet.

Courtney said...

i feel the same way, too... because you never know what "family" experience MIGHT happen and become part of the common shared "history" --- silly words, etc--- but then the other isn't "in" on it. weird.

i try to remember that it is fun for the other 2 to enjoy a new dynamic, but it's tough!

(and i agree with Erin... school we have no choice!)