Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Good News for Working Moms

I posted this on Facebook last week and wanted to repost it here as I have a few readers that aren't on FB (gasp) that are working moms and I know would appreciate it.

Working Moms' Kids Turn Out Fine, 50 Years of Research Says

I think the thing I like so much about this article is that it's so positive.  So often you'll read these articles on the debate between working moms and stay at home moms that like to point the finger in one direction that one alternative is better than the other, but in this case it only serves to tell those of us that are working outside the home that, "Hey, you're not doing anything bad to your kids!"  This is such a nice sentiment since I know so many of us who work suffer from occasional (to chronic) working mother guilt.  It just gets so exhausting with those "mommy wars" or "mompetition" sometimes that it's nice to read that the playing field is pretty much equal and that it's just up to us to make the choice that works best for our own families - although this article does touch on the fact that many mothers, especially single mothers, don't have a choice.  Either way though, I know I felt a bit of relief after reading this since I constantly feel as though my working motherhood experience is an experiment given that both Jay and I came from families where our moms stayed at home during our younger years.  Who knows where this will eventually lead our kids or the impact it will have on them, but at least I know I'm not "damaging" them purely by working which sometimes crosses my mind late at night when I can't sleep.  Whew.


Laura said...

Thanks for sharing this article! Though I'm sure I will never truly be rid of my "working mother guilt", it is comforting to read articles like this.

Courtney said...

my mom was a working mother. i think that it shaped my world very positively. ironically, i am a non-working mother (although i never thought I would be when I was young). i think because i had a working mom and always thought I would be, i don't really ever classify myself as a stay-at-home mom, although that is clearly what I am. When we were living in Arlington, my husband gave me the title "enrichment coordinator" since everyone is really obsessed about titles around there and sure to give you some "eyes" for NOT having a (high-powered) career and a nanny.

Erika said...

I think that is what I struggle with often having had a (mostly) non-working mom as a young kid - I never considered myself being a working mom. It's just nice now to see stuff like this and think, well, whatever I choose, the kids will be fine. :)

Heather said...

Thanks for the article...good one! I KNOW I am not cut out to stay home all the time, so it is nice to have the balance that I do with my summers off...a little of both worlds, I guess. My mom worked full time...never realized how much that shaped my decision to work as a mother, but I am sure it has. Although, I do remember as a kid wondering why the other Mommies came to school and mine never did.