Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Learning from the Fat Blues Brother

This happened a few weeks ago and I meant to blog about it but never got around to it....

Bryce and I were in his room putting his bed tent on one day and out of the blue he says, "Yeah, that fat brother died, but the other one that Uncle Kevin played is still alive."

It took me a second to figure out what in the world he was talking about.  He was referring to the Blues Brothers and how my dad and brother do a pretty decent imitation.  Here they are at my cousin's wedding a little over a year ago:


Anyway, so after I figured out he was talking about John Belushi, we had a really frank discussion about drugs and alcohol that I wasn't expecting.  We talked about how Belushi died because he took lots of drugs that made him unhealthy.  We talked about how some drugs are illegal and could kill you right away.  We talked about how some drugs are given to you by a doctor and how you only take what you are supposed to take.  And we talked about how drinking too much alcohol (in the short or long term) can kill you too.  Definitely not a discussion I was planning to have that day and probably not expected to have with my 4 year old, but it was a good one.  I think it's so important to be honest with your kids about this kind of stuff.  We've already had the smoking discussion many times already too.  Social norming has been found, especially within a close knit family, to be very effective in preventing destructive behaviors.  So it's really never too early to start.  The kids already know about designated drivers and I suppose we'll start having the texting/talking on the phone discussions too.

So yeah, it was an interesting discussion and it was really cool to hear his perspective on everything.  Of course the term "in moderation" came up a lot because it's one of Bryce's signature sayings.  He understands that certain foods are okay "in moderation" and he uses the term at least once a meal when discussing what we are having for dinner, so it only makes sense it would come up in a discussion about alcohol and drugs (alcohol okay in moderation, drugs NEVER okay, not even "in moderation.")  He liked and understood that.

Oh and dad, I don't think Bryce has you confused with Jon Belushi.  He just REALLY enjoys your impression - he's a soul man!!

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