Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Birthday Time Again??

Bryce's 4th birthday is coming up in a month - ack!! I hate impending birthdays! In December, with Caroline turning 5, I was faced with being asked to have a party for the first time as it was the first year that the kids had really been to a bunch of parties themselves. We ended up just doing dinner out at her favorite place and being together with all of her grandparents, aunts, and uncles - she was pleased and that was all she needed. Whew, dodged the bullet again. So now we are approaching Bryce's first birthday after a year full of birthday parties and he's pretty much assumed he's having a party. It seems just about every single kid in his class has had a party so I guess it's natural to assume that.

A little history - I've thrown birthday parties for all 3 of the kids on their 1st birthday. On their first birthday, it's mostly family with some good friends and I see it as a way to mark the end of their first year and surviving it together as a family. After the 1st birthday, I'm not as thrilled about the prospects of it all.

First of all, it's fairly expensive if you do it out anywhere. We could afford something it's just that is not how we are choosing to spend our money. Recently the kids have been to a bunch of "bounce" birthday parties and Bryce is really intersted in doing that. But I was a bit shocked at the sticker price on one of those - especially since I am not of the idea of inviting all the kids in his class. I'm also not a big fan of Chuck E Cheese (only been once) or any other local birthday venues. There is always the option to do something at home but I'm just not feeling very into it. And that's all me. I also kind of feel that when I end up doing my first official "kid" party, it should be Caroline that gets it since she's the oldest.

I talked to my mom about it a little this morning and I kicked around the idea of doing something fun together as a family to mark the day like going to the zoo or another fun place that Bryce would like. I also already told Bryce I'd be happy to provide food/cake for a mini-birthday party at school since then he could be there with all of his classmates. So I think that is the route we are going to take. His birthday is actually on a Saturday this year so I think we'll take advantage of it and do something fun. If he had a best buddy (besides Jason!) I'd be open to inviting him along, but right now his best friend (enemy?) seems to be Caroline even though he has some "friends" at school but I think they are more just kids in his class as opposed to real friends.

7 comments:

BJ said...

I do agree you might hear it from Caroline if Bryce gets the first birthday party. I think your route is the best with doing something fun with the family. I find birthday parties very stressful. Good luck with your final decision.

toddler said...

I like the way you think! :)

Katie said...

If you had a party for Bryce, you could let C have one friend over so she has someone to play with. A sprinkler/water balloon party in your back yard would be cheap and low stress. You could limit invitees to his age...turning 4= 4 friends only. They don't really have "friends" at this age anyway, so he probably wouldn't care. You could make an arbitrary rule that b-day parties start when you go to school (aka Kindergarten). I like the idea of a special family outing for Bryce's birthday. If you do something fun he won't care about a party.

Good luck!

Mama said...

My friend instituted "Family Fun Parties" because BIG kid bday parties stressed her out too much...the child gets to choose the location, food etc. for the day and its just their immediate family. Her kids ae 7 & 8 and they don't even miss BIG kid parties. She seems to really love it and so do the kids. After G's party this year, I think I am going to go that route too!!!

Mama said...

P.S. Oh, another friend of mine does "every other year" the kids have a BIG party with friends/peers. On the off year they just do family.

Erika said...

I think we're going to do a baseball game together as a family seeings how the kids have never been and Bryce would definitely be interested.

I wonder a lot of times, at what point do you have kid parties and the parents (for the most part) do not stay? Right now, when you invite kids, the parents are part of the equation in terms of food, etc. Not that I want that many kids under my supervision but I just wondered b/c I remember going to parties at some point and my mom would leave.

Katie said...

I thought age 4 was the year, but then I dropped Emily off at a preschool party back in Feb. and there was only one other mom besides me that did not stay! Something like 15 moms stayed! (And there was a target/kohl's across the street-- perfect to do some shopping during a 90 minute b-day party!) I was pretty surprised, but Emily is pretty independent. AM had Colleen's 5th b-day party and all of the moms stayed too-- again, I was surprised! Definitely by age 6, I'm sure.