Friday, June 13, 2008

Me First!

For Caroline's last birthday, my MIL gave Caroline a few books with her other gifts as she usually does. One of these books is called, Me First and it couldn't have come at a better time as Caroline was starting with the "me first" habit. However, this book has NOT helped her.

Basically, the book tells the tale of Pinkerton the pig who always has to be first - first to eat, first in line, first on the bus, etc and he learns his lesson that being first isn't always the best when he falls into the trap of a "sand witch." It's actually a cute little book and Caroline likes it and we like it because Pinkerton learns his lesson at the end.

I wish it was that easy for Caroline. She is OBSESSED with being first and it's pretty clear it's a sibling rivalry issue. She stampedes past Bryce for almost everything that she wants to do yelling "ME FIRST!" You should see the lengths she'll go to so she can push past him. This morning she actually grabbed him by the collar of his t-shirt. Depending on the situation, she gets time outs for it, but other times (like when we are truly walking out the door) it's much harder. She loves to declare that she beat Bryce to the table, to the bathroom, to the van, etc. And if Bryce beats her somewhere or doing something, what is her response? "It's NOT a competition, Bryce!" in an almost condescending 4 year old tone.

OMG, she's a drama queen. And of course, as you would expect, when it comes time for doing less than desirable things, she "lets" Bryce go first - like bath time, teeth brushing, etc. UGHHHHHHHHHH! You want to talk about frustrating??? And as Bryce is understanding more, he wants NOTHING to do with it. The morning scramble out the door is almost dangerous - especially for me. We've had heads knocked on door knobs, toes stepped on, pushing, and all the other things you would expect.

We are just so tired of it. We often call her Pinkerton now and she gets quite angry, but that doesn't stop her from wanting to be first. She loves to tell Bryce how she was born first and how she is taller and how he'll NEVER be older than her. And now that he's older, he feeds into it by responding. (Kids this age have NO ability to ignore their sibling's taunts.) I can't handle the competition already. Make it stop. I can only hope that adding a 3rd child and in many ways upsetting the 1 vs. 2 competition, will upset the equilibrium a little bit. Of course it will probably eventually turn into a 1 vs 3, 2 vs 3, or the 1 vs 2 again, but one can hope, right?

Sibling rivalry....I've already had my fill.


H. said...

Me First doesn't go away until about 8 years old....our K-2 students still insist on being first...and when you are in a class of 20+ kids, the chance of being first is not that likely! Poor Bryce!

Viv said...

I can't wait for Makenzie to learn those words - NOT!