Monday, November 12, 2007

"Mommy, we had a lot of giggles this morning!"

This is what Caroline told me this morning as we were headed downstairs to get coats on before heading out around 7:10am. And I can honestly say how nice it was to hear her say that.

While I've had my fair share of rough (to say the least!) mornings with them, things have been steadily improving as time goes on. (Can you believe it's been 2 years since I went back to work full time with 2 kids?) I think there are a lot of reasons for this:

1. The kids are a little bit older and not quite as needy in the morning, although Caroline still likes help getting dressed even though she's fully capable of dressing herself. I think that her desire for me to help dress her is just her needing some mommy time and extra attention.

2. Bryce is a very happy kid in the mornings - as long as he isn't being antagonized by his sister. So his happy mood is often infectious and helps me be in a better mood too.

3. I've gotten better at managing it. Every morning is a lesson and opportunity to learn something about the kids. All those bad mornings along with the good ones have helped me to figure out what works and what does not. I've tried a lot of different things and I've also changed my perspective on a lot of things. I've figured out that getting them to laugh first and act totally goofy for them is a way to start the day out on the right foot, even if they start out grumpy. I've figured out how to distract them from things that upset them and get them to focus on funny or interesting things keeps them from throwing tantrums. I've learned that sometimes, even on the worst mornings, that just sitting with both of them on my lap for a few extra hugs and kisses can turn a morning around. (This is an adult version of time out!)

I haven't yelled or gotten angry with them in a long time now - even though I might be a little irritated by how long something is taking. Of course, I know there will still be difficult days where someone will not do what they need to do and we will be late, but I also know that there will be other good days too. Days where they start with "giggles and toots" as Caroline said.

So I will keep hoping for those mornings of "giggles and toots" and just breathing through the difficult days since every day is a fresh start.


Kelly said...

That is what I'm looking forward too with motherhood. :)

Christine said...

Yay for a good day!!! I always feel like I accomplished something when I've gotten them dressed, packed up, and dropped off. Even better if there was no yelling or timeouts! I hope this pattern continues!