Wednesday, September 12, 2007

Nighttime Problems

Both kids still each had a night time awakening last night. Jay thinks Bryce had a bad dream and Caroline woke up because she peed in bed. (More on that in a minute....) In fact, she woke me up asking me to turn her fresh PJ bottoms right side in since they were inside out and she hasn't figured out how to do that yet. But once I got her all settled, she laid back down and remembered our new bedtime mantra, "NO BOOKS AT NIGHT!" She went back to sleep quickly and I was happy our constant reminder of no books at night seems to be working.

However, the issue with the pee. Ugh. Caroline has been potty trained for day/naps since late January. However, she is not night time potty trained. About 2-3 times a week, she'll wake up with a dry pull-up and we'll praise her and talk about what a big deal that is. But most of the time it's wet. I've been telling her that when she gives up the pull ups for good and keeps the bed dry, she'll get to pick out a fish....likely a low maintenance Beta.

However, I started to wonder maybe if the pull-up was enabling her. So late last week I asked her if she wanted to start wearing panties to bed like a big girl. She emphatically answered "YES!" and we started that night with no problems. The next night was a 2am wake up with a wet bed - even though I'd put a large absorbent pad down, she had somehow squirmed off of it and got everything wet. Then the next night we had another success, but the 4th night had the same result as the 2nd. And in both wet nights, she told me that she just woke up and she was wet.

So even though I KNOW she has a fairly large bladder for a little kid given how long she can hold it during the day - she's still not waking up when she has to go at night. And this isn't something I think you can teach a kid. So we're back to a pull up again. (Although last night she had one on and somehow it leaked and we had a wet bed - not sure how that happened.) I know she'll be ready one day - it just takes time. Just like I had to let HER decide when she was ready to be potty trained. No matter what Jay and I did, she was on her own time and it wasn't until we totally pulled back and ignored it, did she finally decide she was ready. But that seems to be just how Caroline does things. All in her very own time - you cannot rush her without suffering some kind of consequence. This is everything from her daily routine to big things like potty training. I'm sure this will be interesting when she's learning to drive....

6 comments:

Katie said...

Aw man, changing bedsheets at night sucks. Caroline is in control on this one. You guys try everything.

Do you think her late night book reading is linked to her overnight bathroom issues? Like she stays up later b/c she's worried about going to the bathroom (even if she doesn't say so)?

bracken said...

I tell you sometimes it feels like I am reading a story about sydney when i read about Caroline! They have so much of the same personality. Of course with Sydney being younger we are still in daipers but it is clear that she will pottie train when SHE wants to and not sooner:>:>

Anonymous said...

What a bummer to change sheets at night - do you do the trick of layering sheets and matress pads to save time? I put like four sets on the girls bed at once to save time (tip I read in a parenting mag.)

~ Viv

Erika said...

She only has 2 sets of sheets (that aren't flannel) so, I haven't done that. Thought about it, but never done it.

As for the late night reading, I don't think it's linked b/c she's done this late night waking thing for years now. I think she thinks there's so much going on in the world, she doesn't want to miss it by sleeping.

Amy said...

I know you didn't ask for advice but I'm going to give it anyway. Have you tried waking her up about 2 hours after she goes to sleep to use the bathroom? It worked for me as a kid. It got me in the habit of not sleeping so soundly and waking myself up right around that time.

Erika said...

Yeah, I did think of that Amy. Thanks! However given her sleeping issues right now and how completely difficult she is to wake up in the morning, I'm a bit afraid to tempt fate. I have this fear of waking her at 10:30pm and a tantrum ensuing and waking Bryce and then her not being able to go back to sleep. Plus, some nights she won't even go to sleep until 9 or 9:30 b/c of how long it takes her and by the time 2 hours passes, I'm asleep. :)