Sunday, August 12, 2007

Don't forget my girl...

You moms of 2 or more will understand, when you have your 2nd child everyone oooos and ahhhhhs over the new baby. And depending on how old your older child is, you have to be careful that the older child isn't feeling slighted.

We really haven't had too many problems with this before because I think Caroline was young enough that she didn't really notice it, but that is changing.

Last night we were over at my mom's and she had a few of her neighbors over for dinner. While the women kept making comments on how well the kids were behaving and how cute they were, at one point one of the neighbors and her daughter were commenting on how sweet and completely adorable Bryce was. All while Caroline was sitting right across the table from him.

I know they didn't mean any harm by it at all - Bryce is still kind of a baby in the way he talks, walks, and does things so naturally he's going to get more of that "he's so cute" type comments. But as I was sitting there I noticed that Caroline was intently listening to what they were saying and I piped in, "You're so beautiful too, Caroline." She smiled and went back to her playdough. At that point the neighbor agreed and said, "Oh gosh, you're right, we can't forget her!"

It's really the first time I considered the fact that Caroline might feel left out based on the comments people make about Bryce simply because he's the younger and baby of the two. He does lots of silly things and runs around - and while she does a lot of the same, because she's an older child, people don't gush over her as much anymore. Combine that with her intense interest in people's conversations now and you realize she's interpreting things people are saying.

I guess it's just something a mother of two has to remember and make sure that neither of my two kids ever feel that they aren't as sweet, lovable, or wonderful as the other.

2 comments:

Katie said...

Awww, Caroline is so cute! You forget that the little ones notice EVERYthing.

Christine said...

Yes, I've definitely BTDT...Anya hasn't commented on it yet, but a couple of times I've had to interject as you did to let her know I remembered how awesome she is! Of course, I don't ever remember feeling slighted by my sibs....